How i deal with negativity at workplace ❤️

How do we deal with negativity at workplace.

i find it hard for me to get that positive vibes lately at my own workplace.from the start i, me being me, i like to blame myself first for everything that went wrong.

so i sat down for a while thinking what have i done, what could possibly went wrong with my ownself that lately. i found myself not really into what i am doing right now. everything did not go with the flow and i did almost everything with a very heavy heart and so i can say i did not carry my job sincerely, which i know is not healthy at all.

so i talk to myself, i have to dust away all the negative feeling if i have any inside of me to make way for the positivity to bloom. of course, each one of us had try to be a positive person all day long. its not like everyday we have the same problem, but even if you're facing one, just believe there is going to be at least one solution to it.

as hard as it may sound, i just have to try my best. so far doing good am proud of myself. bahaha

however bear in mind there are always some external factors that i would like to point out here.

1) it's not always you. you gotta check around you, determine which type of colleagues do you have.
if youre happened to be not so lucky you might have a negative minded colleague. dont fret, you have to stand firm on your mission that is to fill yourself with positivity.

so do not linger around, and do not ignore them. you dont wanna be an anti social teammate do you? what am i trying to suggest here (based on my experience) just limit your time with them. talk when necessary.
i used to have a deskmate who ALWAYS whine and complain about how wrong other can be. i must say i got fed up with her negative rant, especially early in the morning. on monday some more. sigh.
so what i did was, i just put on my earphone indirectly making her understand that i do not want to hear anything unnecessary from her. lucky that my workplace allow the usage for earphone. such a life saviour this one.

2) different person different character. lets imagine what will happen to us if everyone possess the same behaviour/character, of course it will be easy but to some point there will be a boring state due to lack of challenge thus making no room for us to improve our lives.

we learn from mistakes, remember? so do not let yourself down for whatever the reason your boss might be yelling at you, scolding you. just absorp it with open heart, learn to accept our mistake.
Just so you know, its not nice for you to rant over and tell the whole world that you're right. Unless you're the boss who runs the company then you might have your own idea of how to run it. unfortunately in my case, i am just working for a company. bahaha. so bosses are always right!

3) recharge! whenever i have free time and extra budget ill go for a holiday. be it just a mile away from the city or overseas. the idea here is to let your mind have a break that it deserves.

new views, new places, might ease your mind. or just take leave to have a rest at home, forget a little about your piling workloads or annoying colleagues if you have any. just do you. do not feel guilty to use up your Annual Leave! 

and last but not least, SABR SABR SABR.

what else left to do right?

i hope whoever read this will have an amazing day every day!

haha til then,

i'll write whatever comes to mind.

xx

About Friendship.

I still remember during primary school i had a girl bestfriend and when the two of us were together the world was like literally ours. I feel like there was always not enough time for us to chat while we were in school so calling each other on the landline every night was a mandatory. Of course i could not remember what were we discussing about but one of them was to ask about homeworks. How geek i know. For a while i thought to myself having a bestfriend was amazing! Until one day there was a new girl entered our class and she was kinda chatty. She was sweet and all and i liked her. We kinda get closed and then there were 3 of us. My first bestfriend, the chatty girl and me. Again, the world felt just like ours. However as time passed by, i felt like i was left out. Maybe because i was too comfortable being myself with them, there was just some things in me that they did not like or whatnot. Well i guess we can never expect everyone to love every single bit of us. I have flaws. Yada yada yada boom they made plans together without me, they went for recess without me, they had a sleepover at each other's plave without me. And that, my friend, was the first massive heartbreak ive ever felt.

What i was tryna tell here in my life, ive felt that feeling for quite a no of time. During secondary, during college, during uni. Always at the losing side. Every single time. Til i came to a point i told myself yeahhh friendship is important, they make us feel happier, spirit lifter and bla bla but i have decided not to be so attached to anyone anymore because the heartbreak of separating and knowing there is always someone to replace you is so awful.

All that had made me ponder what did i do wrong, what were the traits that other people find not pleasing them as they easily replaced me first of all, you know that kinda thing. Then the Oprah side of me just kept on screaming there's nothing wrong with me its just that its normal for a human being to change. We just like to try new things. Then i was ok. At least i thought i was. Until i entered senior class of uni when i started to have a guy being my bestfriend. Until career life i think i had a few guy bestfriend and i can see there was less drama than a girl-girl friendship yaknow. I get close to them, like very close, i cant hardly count the amount of girl friends that i had. However the world do not always go with you, people start talking, to some extend started assuming that i was turning to one wild girl always following guys hanging out and all. Again, i quit liking this magical thing called friendship.

Living my life now happily married and the only bestest friend ive got is my husband. No drama no issues no heartbreak. But then again, its quite pleasing to see those with BFF since small still stick together, how lucky. Well i guess its just not for me. This friendship thingy can be very precious and thank you to all who had been in my life, be my bestfriend, you coloured my life once but im just tired of trying. Maybe better luck in future, no? #notagainstfriendship #friendshipislife

Hehe til then, ill write whatever comes to mind!

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